One night last week, my 17-year-old daughter threw a big hissy fit.
It began when she couldn’t locate her work uniform; things escalated when she found it in the dirty clothes hamper.
“What am I going to do now?” she moaned, as she stood clutching her wrinkled work clothes in her hands.
“Good question. What are you going to do?” I gently asked.
“I don’t know. I don’t know.” She sounded like a heart-broken record.
“I’ve found that the best way to solve a problem is to begin at the very beginning, or by stating exactly what the problem is. So let’s start there. What is your problem?”
“I don’t know,” she whimpered.
“Sure you do,” I said soothingly. “Your problem is that you have to go to work first thing in the morning and your uniform isn’t clean. Now you know exactly what the problem is, so the next step is to figure out a way to solve it. Can you think of any possible solutions?”
“Um … wash it?” Her reply was definitely more of a question than an answer.
“Yes, that’s a wonderful solution! I’d even say that’s the preferable solution. You wouldn’t want to wear a dirty uniform to work, would you?” I smiled briefly. “So, what do you think now? Is your problem solved?”
“Uh … yeah. I mean, I think so.”
“Good. I think so too. I have one more question. How do you feel right now?”
“Well …” There was a long pause. Then my teen looked up and said, “I realize I don’t feel as upset, so I guess that means my problem isn’t actually a problem anymore.”
“I agree! Your problem is solved! Now, let’s go get this uniform in the wash.”
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Problem-solving is an essential life skill.
It’s practically impossible to live a productive life if you can’t figure out how to solve the myriad of problems that pop up on a daily basis.
There are times when we are all like my teenage daughter, unable to clearly think in order to problem solve a troubling situation. Whether we throw a dramatic fit or ignore the problem until it grows too large to deny anymore, we inability to problem solve allows the situation to fester until it controls our life and consumes our thoughts.
This mental and emotional distress nearly always results in a lower-quality of life.
Do you have any PCOS problems? I do.
- infertility or menstrual issues
- acne, psoriasis or other skin problems
- weight gain or inability to lose weight
- hair loss or unwanted hair growth
- anxiety or depression
These are only a few of the more common problems a woman with PCOS might face. I’m sure you can think of others.
PCOS can be overwhelming … especially if you are dealing with more than one of the issues listed above.
Sometimes, when my PCOS symptoms seem to be cycling out of control, I feel desperate for a solution, yet my emotional state makes me incapable of thinking clearly enough to do any practical problem solving.
Exactly how can we problem solve a mystifying health condition like PCOS?
I would like to share with you five Biblical truths which have helped me deal with my PCOS problems. While I can’t guarantee putting these principles into practice will instantly alleviate or improve your PCOS problems, my personal experience is that my emotional state of mind is strengthened and that gives me greater peace as I deal with PCOS on a daily basis.
1. Don’t give into anxiety or fear.
I realize it is much easier said than done! Yet, fear only brings us more fear and anxiety gives us nothing more than more anxiety. What a vicious cycle!
The Bible is filled with the encouragement not to fear. Some say there are 364 such verses, one for each day of the year. While I haven’t actually counted, I do know there are plenty of these sorts of verses to choose from.
One of my favorites is:
Don’t worry about anything, but in everything, through prayer and petition with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God. ~Philippians 4:6
I love this verse because it reminds me that the way to combat anxiety and fear and worry is through prayer.
Another favorite verse is:
For God has not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. ~ 2 Timothy 1:7
When I read this verse, I am reminded that the result of those prayers is that my fears will be replaced with power, love and a sound mind. I don’t know about you, but I need results like that!
2. God uses everything for our good.
Sometimes God doesn’t solve our problems because He has a bigger purpose for leaving them in our lives. This includes our PCOS problems.
As much as I hate PCOS and find it to be the most annoying, frustrating problem regarding my overall health, God can still use this to bless and benefit me and others. Y’all, the idea of God using my PCOS for good is astounding to me! I get chills just thinking about it.
How can God use PCOS for good?
Let me share a personal example.
For three years, I experienced infertility. I couldn’t have a baby, and my doctor seemed to be unable to help me. Eventually, that changed and I gave birth three times. But, it was those years of infertility and longing to have just one child to love that eventually led to me making the decision to foster needy children. Not only has this blessed two sweet toddlers with a safe and loving home for the past year and a half, but it has blessed everyone in my family too. And it might not have happened if it wasn’t for what started as a difficult PCOS problem.
I challenge you to look for the ways PCOS problems can turn into blessings for you or others … and if you can’t see those blessings, then ask God to reveal them to you.
But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.” Therefore, I will most gladly boast all the more about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may reside in me. ~ 2 Corinthians 12:9
3. Turn to God for solutions to all of our problems.
It’s easy to think the best answers will be found through our doctor’s advice or via a Google search.
But human understanding is limited. Doctors don’t have all the answers and book knowledge is often lacking too. What’s a person to do?
Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. ~ Proverbs 3:5
Trusting God for answers isn’t as easy as it sounds. We feel frustrated when we can’t discern what He is telling us or when the solutions aren’t coming quick enough (see #4 below), but we can be certain that God knows everything and He has the answers we need for all of our problems.
Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. ~Matthew 7:7
Next time you are up agains a PCOS problem you can’t seem to solve, try asking God for answers and be patient for His answer.
4. God sees time differently from humans.
Sometimes I feel like God isn’t answering my prayers in a timely way. It’s not like I’m asking for a bigger home or an expensive sports car. I just want improved health. What’s wrong with that? Why is He so slow to answer?
But do not overlook this one fact, beloved, that with the Lord one day is as a thousand years, and a thousand years as one day. The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you. ~ 2 Peter 3:8-9a
Humans are limited by time. We can’t see the future, and often past is clearer than the present. Even those of us with the longest lifespans can expect to live only perhaps a century at most, probably less. Time is not controlled by us; we are controlled by time.
But God is not limited by time, for He created it and controls it. God, who is outside of time, sees the past, the present and the future with perfect clarity. God has a timetable, and it isn’t the same one humans use.
We can trust that God will heal our bodies from PCOS, even if it doesn’t happen according to our own timeline.
This actually brings me to the next point.
5. This body is not our eternal body.
Imagine a world without PCOS and all the problems it brings.
I don’t know about you, but for me it’s hard to imagine my life without the shadow of PCOS.
But ponder this … There is no PCOS in heaven.
For the believer in Christ, Heaven is the eternal home. The Bible tells us that we will dwell there with God. It also says there will be no more death or sorrow or pain. We will be made new, with heavenly bodies which are perfect.
What does that mean for us now, while we still live on earth?
I can look forward to a day when PCOS has been defeated. My body will be made new and perfect.
And this is a promise worth waiting for.
For we know that when this earthly tent we live in is taken down (that is, when we die and leave this earthly body), we will have a house in heaven, an eternal body made for us by God himself and not by human hands. We grow weary in our present bodies, and we long to put on our heavenly bodies like new clothing. For we will put on heavenly bodies; we will not be spirits without bodies. While we live in these earthly bodies, we groan and sigh, but it’s not that we want to die and get rid of these bodies that clothe us. Rather, we want to put on our new bodies so that these dying bodies will be swallowed up by life. God himself has prepared us for this, and as a guarantee he has given us his Holy Spirit. ~ 2 Corinthians 5:1-5
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How do you PCOS problem solve?
What are some examples of PCOS blessings in your life?
Please share your story and encourage someone else with PCOS today.